Not Your Daddy

“Indescribable love”, “a greater sense of responsibility”, “nervousness”, and “makes u want to be a better person,” are words that describe the feelings of the birth of one father’s daughter. Notice the word father is used here instead of dad. There is a grave distinction between the two and I believe that fathers should be celebrated and recognized, instead of dads and sperm donors.

First and foremost, let me define these two terms. ‘Dad’ and ‘sperm donor’ can almost be used interchangeably. A ‘sperm donor’ is just that; not there physically there, and even when confronted, is in total denial or flat out doesn’t care about his child(ren). A ‘dad’ is a sperm donor who contributes when convenient. For example, he has ten children and brags about them, but does not take care of them or see them; or he enters his child’s life when something significant happens in their life.

A father simply cannot be confused with the other two terms. A father takes care of his child(ren)’s needs- physical, emotional, and financial- without court or anybody else asking or begging them to. A father wants the best for his child. He does what it takes to keep his family happy. A father talks to his child(ren), and is genuinely interested and involved in their child’s life. A father makes his child(ren) a priority. And a father spends time with his child(ren) and does not babysit them.

So, this coming Sunday (and other days too), let all the real men who are fathers know how important they are in your life and to society as a whole. There are way too many dads out there who aren’t handling their business and allowing women or the justice system to raise men. If you are a father, keep doing what you’re doing and I truly appreciate you!

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY

Would You Ever…

  When listening to the news or even just surfing the internet, you will come across some stories that seem so unbelievable that you will either be grossed out, it spurs conversation, or makes you feel really normal. So my question is, in the following situations, would you date this type/kind of person.

Would you ever date a person who…

- Cross dresses?

- Had a sex change (while you were with them)?

- Had a sex change (before you met)?

- Had a homosexual relationship/experience (if you are heterosexual)?

- Is a sexual predator?

- A drug abuser?

- A woman abuser?

- Has a sexually transmitted disease that you can’t get rid of?

- Is currently married?

- Abuses children?

Not Like That

  Teenage years, maybe. But when you’re in you’re late twenties and up, you should’ve had plenty of practice and should know how to kiss. Part of the art of seduction is knowing how to kiss (and where to kiss…but that’s whole ‘nother topic). Here are some of the worst kissing errors a person could make. If your actions have made the list… Stop it!

- Around your mouth and even your chin is wet: Why couldn’t you find my lips? What does my chin have to do with it?

- Each kiss is a small dry peck: What’s the point?

- You lick faces: Umm… this is not a kiss and I need a shower after.

- Your tongue just lays there: Nobody’s tongue should be camping out in my mouth. You must have a purpose.

- (On the flip side) Your tongue is overactive: Calm down. Kissing is no longer pleasing or sexy if you feel like this is a race.

- Eyes wide open: That is just creepy and so not sexy. Close your eyes. I shouldn’t feel your stare.

Any kissing horror stories that you can add?

Follower Appreciation

  First and foremost, thank you followers for taking the time to read my posts and leave comments. As a thank you, I would like to give you the chance to choose the topic for my June blogs. Please click on the link below and cast your vote no later than Monday, June 3rd.

 

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Those 3 Little Words

  When you’re little, it was so much easier to say those three words. Why? Because it was what you were supposed to say or sometimes even forced to say in order to rectify a situation. You break something- “Sorry.” You slap somebody (accident or not)- “Sorry.” You hurt someone’s feelings- “Sorry.” And everything goes back to normal and the situation is solved.

As you mature, “Sorry” just doesn’t cut it. First of all, if you’re grown and are still handing out meaningless ‘Sorrys,’ then that’s all they are…meaningless. What hurts more- hurt feelings or hurt feelings with a side of a fake apology? Those three little words, ‘I am sorry,’ are very powerful, when they are used in a genuine way.  They are also one of the hardest three words to say. Part of the reason is because you are either admitting guilt or admitting that you were wrong. And who really wants to do that?

What makes an apology truly genuine is the manner in which you say it. I learned years ago that the majority of communication is the way you say something. For instance, I bump you, and as I keep walking, snap and say ‘sorry’ while I’m also holding a phone up to my ear. Would you take me seriously? What about if I bump you and stop, put the phone down at my side, look you in the eye and say, “I’m sorry. Are you okay?” What’s the difference? Let’s start with body language. You look the person in the eye and face them in order to effectively communicate. As you face the other person, you aren’t distracting yourself with the phone, your grocery list, or anything else. You focus. Verbally, don’t just throw out a ‘Sorry,’ because that really tells me nothing. When you take the time to tell me why you are apologizing, then I will listen and take the conversation seriously. “I am really sorry. I didn’t mean to bump you, but I wasn’t paying attention and I was in a hurry. My fault.” One last pointer, an apology plus a dig at the other person does not make it genuine…it makes you an ass. Don’t say, “I’m sorry for not paying you back on time. I would’ve given you the money back quicker if you weren’t such a nag.” I no longer accept your apology.

Manners go a long way, people. If you’re at fault, fess up but be genuine about it. Keep your apology if you don’t mean it. It’s like digging the knife in deeper, and nobody likes a faker;)

Top Eight Cheap Dates

  With the economy the way that it is, you can’t go on shopping sprees, eat out every other day, and keep up with the Joneses like you may want to. Money is tight, I get it. But there’s no reason for you to not have fun. So if you are trying to save a little money but still want to go out (or not) and enjoy yourself with your sweetie, there are some things you can do without breaking the bank.

1. Movie night: Whether it be Netflix, downloading a movie, or even finding one on cable, there is plenty to watch and plenty of cuddle time during the movie.

2. Picnic: This romantic gesture is sweet, as long as it’s not worn out.

3. Festival: Summer, Spring, and Fall are the best months (of course), because not only do you get out and about, but you also get some exercise to go along with your fun.

4. Walk: The majority of problems couples face stems from communication. Here is a great way to have some alone time with no distractions- no phones, no TV, just you and your sweetheart.

5. Candlelight dinner or BBQ: Cooking together is a cool way to bond and grow closer. You get to know what each other likes, experiment, and of course spend that one-on-one time.

6. Bowling: Step up the bowling experience with a little wager; for instance, whomever wins gets a massage.

7. Drive-in: Get a two for one movie deal, cuddle in the car, and get comfortable with the snacks you would’ve snuck into the movie theater anyways.

8. Game night: Pick some of your favorite games and play together. If you’re feeling more social, invite another couple or two over.

What would you add?

Whose Booty

Some people can and some cannot have sex with someone without attaching feelings. The ones who know what time it is may have others or simply enjoy being single (let’s hope these bed hoppers are single). The ones who take things more seriously often leave the ‘relationship’ with hurt feelings. There’s nothing worse than being left in the dark about someone who maybe a potential somebody.

So, what are some clues that you are only a jump off? Here’s a list of subtle to obvious hints that tell you that you are being used.

+ You get calls only at night or in the wee hours.

- You don’t get called for casual conversation very often at all.

+ You don’t meet any family or friends (on purpose).

- You’ve never seen their house in the daytime, or vice versa (you may not have seen them in the light either).

+ You do more calling than they do.

- They mostly text sexually explicit words and/or pictures instead of conversations.

+ They ask ‘How are you’ only out of common courtesy. They really don’t care.

- They don’t discuss feelings (unless it has to do with how they felt sexually).

+ Cuddling and talking afterwards is most likely out of the question.

- They don’t want to know anything about you.

+ You don’t know where they live (maybe only the city).

- You can forget going out with them. You won’t be going anywhere in public together.

Have you ever fit this description?