I felt really compelled to write this because I found this topic to be so fascinating. A friend of mine texted me a link to this online broadcast called “Ask a Black Man” (www.madamenoire.com), where they discuss various topics ranging from the single life, to dating, to ‘the right one’, etc. But there was one topic in particular that caught my attention.
Apparently, ‘Faking it’ isn’t reserved for the ladies anymore. More and more I’m hearing that guys have joined the game too. And quite a game it is. You deliberately trick your partner into thinking that you’re satisfied because you are either: a. tired, b. don’t like it, or c. just not that into her. If there are any other reasons, please enlighten me because this is very intriguing, but very disappointing to hear.
Whether you are a man or a woman, what’s wrong with being honest? Do you really have to play pretend and put on a production in order to spare feelings or to play into your partner’s ego? Consider this, how would you feel if it was the other way around and you found out that your partner was faking it? The honest to goodness key to a healthy and long-lasting relationship is communication. And by faking it, then drifting off to sleep or even going your separate ways after, that key is truly missing.
I highly encourage the fellas to comment on this, but try to keep it as clean as possible.