Relationships are often like a merry-go-round. You’re on it for a while, you take a break and get off, and some people get right back on. Is it normal to break up and go right back to your ex? Yes. Is it healthy? Most likely no. Will it work better the next time? Definitely no. Here’s the thing.
There’s got to be a reason you broke up in the first place. If it’s an easy fix, there was a break down in the communication somewhere for the problem not to be handled before you parted ways. Maybe your partner wanted a taste of the single life so that they could do their own thing without technically cheating. Whatever the case may be, look closely at the reason for the break up before you eagerly hop back on the ride.
Sometimes it’s not such an easy fix. You have children and joint assets are at stake. Maybe your partner cheated and you feel that the bond has permanently been broken. In this case, why hop back on? Many times your partner is playing games and wants to see how far (s)he can go, how much crap you’ll take, and to see if you’ll really be there in case they deliver the boot again.
I’ve seen it happen and I’ve had it happen. After a while you’ll get tired of riding, but how much of your life do you have to sacrifice and give up to make another person happy that doesn’t care as much as you? How many of your friends have to tell you to “move on or shut up”? Bottom line, if you go back, what’s the chance that whatever happened doesn’t happen again? And if it does, how much are you willing to tolerate?
On the other hand, I have never heard of a couple who have taken a break and come back fresh, or even come back. Taking a break is code for a certified break up, so my question is… is it worth it? If you are closing in on taking a break, is the relationship past fighting for? And why should you go back?
Break vs. break up… are either worth the trouble to get back into the relationship?