Invite…Rejected

unhappy  Your relationship is going pretty smooth. You found someone who shares common interests, who is kind and listens to you, so what’s next? You passed the three month mark? Check.  Your friends met them? Check. Your friends approve? Check. Your parents met them? Check. Your parents approved? Denied.

Though the situation is common, there is no one-size-fits-all solution. When your parents hate who you are with, whether they are vocal or not, about your relationship- it makes your relationship that much harder. I’m not going to argue about who knows best between an adult and a parent, but what I do know if that sometimes other people (in general) see things that we don’t see.

When you are in a relationship, especially in the beginning stages, we think that everything about a person is great. {For future reference, I always use a three mark rule. Not necessarily the no sex rule that Steve Harvey promotes, but I know that it takes me at least three months to tell whether or not I truly like a person.} During those first ninety days, you are even more vulnerable to over look things and let some things slide. Friends and family often have that other type of vision that sees through the possible B.S. that we can’t.

My advice to those who are in that position is to hear out what others have to say (not everyone, but those who have your best interests in mind), and weigh out the pros and cons of what they are saying and determine the merit behind it. I’m a firm believer of everything happens for a reason. For instance, if all of the family and friends you introduce your new squeeze to gets a bad vibe…everybody can’t be wrong. However, if your friend doesn’t like your boyfriend because he’s really ugly, that’s their problem. Really consider the motive behind your family or friends telling you about not liking your boyfriend/girlfriend, and also consider whether the stress of not being able to share your happiness with someone who is close to you worth the trouble.

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