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Dear Facebook

facebook Since Facebook hit the scene, people have been using it to reconnect with others, share photos, or even advertise products and services. Another thing that Facebook has become to some is a diary. Maybe some don’t realize that this is a social media site and once it reaches cyberspace, it’s just out there. Maybe some don’t realize that you can’t QUITE delete your page and it’s still there after you either hide or delete your account. Maybe some don’t realize that some of us don’t give a damn what you’re going through and we’re sorry that we friended you in the first place.

Ladies and gentlemen, there are many dos and don’ts in regards to setting up Facebook (which I will not go into), but what I would like to express is some frustration as far as what I’m been seeing lately. On my personal page, I don’t share much. People don’t need to know where I live, where I work, where I “checked in” to, or what I’m doing every day of my life. I share my blogs, a couple of pictures, and every now and then, I’ll share someone’s status. That’s it. But Facebook has become some people’s lives and a lifestyle. So I present to you the top four no-nos that I see that flood my page (besides the celebrities and stores that post something every five minutes). * FYI- They are not in order because they are equally annoying.

– Bragging: Low-key, you aren’t truly happy because if you were, you wouldn’t be on FB so much. Your life isn’t as grand as you describe it and you may even need confirmation and “ata boy/girl” from others. Stop it- you’re not happy and do something about that.

– Diary entry: Umm…I don’t need to know that you just came back from the store, you’re on your way to yoga, you just got a mani- pedi, and you’re about to tuck your kids in. Damnit- Facebook is not your spouse. There is no need to check in every two seconds. In fact, the more you post about your whereabouts, the easier you’re making it for someone to find you. So, keep on if you want to… .

– Attention-seeking: I take back what I said earlier. This might be the most annoying thing ever. FB is a social platform, not a therapist. If you need someone to talk to, reach out to them; a friend, mate, or whoever OFFLINE. Your ambiguous posts such as, “Lost right now,” “So hurt,” “Best day ever,” is only a ploy to get people to rush and say, “What’s wrong,” “What happened,” as comfort or to get your ego stroked. Stop it. If you have more than one hundred “friends,” more than half of those are strangers. Once again, go offline and talk to someone who actually cares.

– Revenge: This is a biggie. It’s funny when people post these nasty comments. My question is…are you absolutely sure that whoever your attitude is directed to is really reading your post? Don’t waste your time. Say a couple of woo-sas, pray, or better yet- talk to the person who upset you, instead of airing out your dirty laundry. You just look silly.